Who are you, and what are you doing with your life?

Hi, I’m Jessica Knight, life coach for 20 to 30-something women ready to figure themselves out and find their voice in life, again or for the first time.

 Basically? I’ve made it my job to help you figure out what you want and make it a priority.

But before I tell you more about me, let’s talk about you. Maybe you:

  • Feel like you don’t know what you want, let alone who you are

  • Worry you’re “not good at anything” and you’ll never find “your thing”

  • Always think you’ll be happier in the next job, the next city or the next lover…and then you’re not

  • Put yourself and your own needs on the backburner

  • Attract bad partners with bad habits

And yet, you know not-so-deep inside you are meant for more….

I’m here to tell you you’re right.

You don’t have to start every Monday filled with regret (and a pounding headache from another unplanned Sunday Funday).

You don’t have to keep saying you’ll get around to doing things that fill your soul  – taking that yoga class, going back to school – “tomorrow” or “next month.”
And you don’t have to feel like life is slipping you by and you have no control over how it all turns out.

You can discover yourself + what you want, and I can help.

A former yoga teacher mentor who once helped teachers-to-be find their unique ‘teaching’ voice, I’ve since made it my mission to help women from all walks of life and all vocations figure themselves out.

Because what you’re going through? I’ve been there, done that and got the damn t-shirt.

Listen: Just because your friends aren’t feeling this way doesn’t mean no one gets it.

I’ve experienced it all: Rocky relationships. Crappy jobs.  An expensive college degree and nothing to show for it. A life that looked decent on paper but was actually going haywire under the surface.

All through my college (and several post-college) years, I did a lot of what I thought I should do because I thought it would make me feel proud…but it actually ended up running me into the ground.

Yeah, all of the “good” stuff – a decent job that paid me enough to survive, a boyfriend who seemed okay on the surface – all of it felt like shit.

I vividly remember waking up one day and thinking, “This can’t be life.”

And yet, part of me  always believed I’d find ‘it” – happiness, love, success (whatever that means)  – in the next job, the next city or the next lover.

Turns out, I was wrong.

After spending more time on the yoga mat, in therapist chairs, consulting with tarot card readers and perusing the self-help section of the bookstore than is humanly healthy, I got a flash of white hot truth: Happiness is created from the inside out, not the other way around.

In order to finally feel “secure” in my life, I had to take a good, hard look at my insides, my motivations, my dreams, my desires and my darkness.

I had to take ownership of Jessica. ALL of Jessica.

Which meant? I had to clean up my life – mentally, emotionally and socially.

I had to say goodbye to ALL of the ways I was letting myself down – cigarettes, alcohol, avoiding, overspending, ditching and lying, just to name a few. 😉 .

And that’s when things started to turn around for me.

Today, I know who I am (although I continue to allow myself to grow).

And that’s the thing:  As humans, we ALL have a desire to be FULLY ourselves. To figure out who we are, and to continue to grow into the biggest version of ourselves.

The problem is most of us don’t even know what that really means because we have never given ourselves the time to figure it out.

That’s what my coaching is all about.

It’s about giving you the tools, guidance, support and SPACE to figure out what you want, from the inside out.

Because when you do that? You can…

  • Quit flaking on yourself

  • Quit talking yourself out of what you really want to do (and saying yes to what you don’t want to do out of guilt and people-pleasing)

  • Quit feeling like a jerk when you stand up for yourself and your desires (ahem, like turning down happy hour for yoga, or a beer festival for an art class)

  • And finally figure out what the hell you want and have the confidence to go out and get it

Nope, discovering yourself doesn’t have to mean a new job, a new lover or a new apartment in a new part of town (even if it’s really cheap and full of stainless steel appliances).

It simply means peeling back the layers, getting real and allowing someone else to shine a light on your core (and all those places you haven’t looked before).

And then? You can start building a life that’s meaningful, truthful and ALL YOURS. Inside out.

If you’re ready for all that (and I know you are), book a clarity call with me here.

 

You might also like to know:

  • I have an MA in Middle Eastern History

  • I’m a 200-RYT (registered yoga teacher) and have since racked up more hours than I can count

  • I earned my CoActive Trained Life Coach certification from CTI (one of the best coaching schools out there)

  • I’m obsessed with CrossFit (It fuels my soul) and avocados (it fuels my exercise).

AS SEEN IN

 

Birth until 2005: Trauma, abandonment, and feeling invisable. Believed happiness was only for the popular kids. Tried it all: sex, drugs, alcohol. Wore my pajamas for much of high school (if I decided to show up). Ended up at community college (because it was the only one that would accept me). Felt like my life was going nowhere…until I decided to make it go somewhere. 

2006: Moved into my own place in Manhattan with one of my best friends. Landed a waitressing job the day I moved in. Worked my ass off to get into the New School. Finally felt like I was doing something right.

2007: Full-time school. Full-time job. And on-again, off-again “girlfriend” for a man who woke me up every night with drunk phone calls (and would never ACTUALLY call me his girlfriend). I call this the beginning of my fall.

2008: Hit Rock Bottom for the 3rd time in my life – but this time, couldn’t get out. Left school (I took a leave of absence), found yoga…and a bit of myself.

2009: Completed yoga teacher training. Got tons of teaching jobs. Started a successful business teaching yogis how to find their voices and styles. Again, things were working out. That guy was still in the picture.

Also 2009: I have the HARDEST time ACTUALLY teaching Yoga. The words would not come out of my mouth. I knew it all – but was so afraid to speak in public. I spend months working on it – and then start Coaching other yoga teachers on how to find their voice.

2010: And then again, life was NOT so good. Struggled to complete my MA after my semester off – because I didn’t that career anymore. Wondered if I was an alcoholic. Broke up with a guy that was good for me to follow the one who never committed to me. Felt myself falling apart…again.

2011: Graduated with an MA in Middle Eastern Studies. Made a split second decision to leave New York (and my booming yoga biz) for Boston with my then-boyfriend after only six months. Sure it was my time to shine!

June 2011: Turns out, it wasn’t. The (small) yoga scene in Boston chewed me up and spit me out. Struggled to pay the bills, hit a balance of $0 and ended up taking a low-paying job as an Admin Assistant. Thought life was crap.

Later, 2011: Accept higher-paying job at a hospital in Boston that should have made me happy and proud. Still miserable.

February 2012:  Start sports league business with then-boyfriend. Step back into entrepreneurial role, but still depressed. Relationship fails (but we continued to live together). My self esteem plummets. My life in the office (and my boss) make me feel stepped on every single day.

Also February 2012: Realize I need a freaking change. A big one. And a real one. And not a half assed one.

Also also February 2012: My two-year contract ends. I don’t leave. Instead, I stay…and less than a year later, get promoted to management.

2012-2015: Mediocrity. Misery. (Oh, and I end up back in NYC.)

Fast forward to Feb 2015: Reconnect with an old friend. We fall in love. Get engaged. But…yep, still miserable. Going to work every day feeling dead. And worse, a hypocrite because my actions aren’t aligned to anything I believe in. What the hell even is personal development?

September 2015: “Why do people have to be at work at 8:30am every day?” “Why do people sit at their desk until 5pm even if they don’t have work to do?” “Why do we only have 2 weeks off a year?” “Why am I shopping at Loft?” “People actually LIKE Excel!?” Nothing makes sense. After leaving my job every day feeling depleated, I sign up for coaching school to get a new certification. All my lessons reintroduce me to self-help loving, personal development, part of myself I loved.

October 2015: Put a plan into action and start acting on what I know. I get a new Life Coach and start taking the steps toward creating my coaching business.

May 2018: Between 2016 and 2018, I get married, birth and raise my daughter, find myself in a deep depression, get separated and divorced (this is a short summary of a really dificult time). It was a whirlwind, it was filled with anxiety, worry, and confusion…and I needed to find myself all over again)

May 2018 – February 2020: Survival mode. Single mommy-ing. Working on my business and picked up another job (that absolutely sucks) to make ends meet – but I know I need to “do what I need to do” for my daughter. I am very tired. I am also very proud of myself for “doing it.”

March 2020: Just as I was starting to feel like a human again, the pandemic hits. Everything I thought I knew into a blender and I need to re-figure everything and every relationship out. I realize I covered up my anxiety with workaholism. I lean into this. I put it all in a petri dish.

May 2020: I start dating again. Oh boy.

September 2020: I find myself in a relationship with someone I thought was “the one” until it very much wasn’t. 

December 2021: I become certified in helping people navigate through Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse.